Maha ShivratriYour child and the Night of Lamps
↗On Maha Shivratri, families stay awake with lamps and songs. Your child is sure staying up will be easy, but by ten the eyelids are heavy. Papa tells the story of Shiva drinking the poison to save the world, and how Parvati stayed by his side all night. Your child decides to keep one small lamp burning, and just about makes it to midnight.
Lesson: Standing by someone is a kind of strength
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Three Bel Leaves
↗On Maha Shivratri morning Dadi says Shiva does not want gold, only a bel leaf offered with a clean heart. Your child searches the garden and finds a cluster of three perfect leaves, but the neighbour's boy has none. Sharing the cluster means Your child has only one leaf left, yet the priest says it is the fullest offering he has seen all morning.
Lesson: A gift shared is worth more than a gift kept
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Dancing Drum
↗At the Maha Shivratri temple fair the damru goes "dum-dum-dum" and Your child learns that Shiva is called Nataraja, the lord of the dance, who keeps the whole universe in rhythm. Back home, the family is grumpy and out of step. Your child taps the damru beat on the table until Papa hums, Mummy sways, and even the cat's tail keeps time.
Lesson: A gentle rhythm can bring everyone together
Maha ShivratriYour child and the All-Night Vigil
↗On Maha Shivratri, Dadi says the family will stay awake all night singing to Shiva, and Your child promises to last until dawn. By midnight everyone's eyes are drooping. Your child fetches the little damru drum and starts a soft beat, then tells the story of the blue-throated god to the sleepy cousins. When the first bird sings, Your child is the only one still upright, and Dadi hands over the first prasad.
Lesson: A promise kept through the long night is worth the tired morning
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Milk for the Shivling
↗The temple queue is long and Your child is carrying a small lota of milk for the shivling. A kitten mewing behind the temple wall looks thin and hungry. Your child thinks hard, then pours half the milk into a leaf for the kitten and carries the rest inside. The priest, hearing why the lota is half empty, says Shiva, the friend of all creatures, would have done the same.
Lesson: Kindness on the way to the temple is part of the prayer
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Nandi Who Listened
↗Nani tells Your child that if you whisper a wish into the ear of Nandi, Shiva's bull, he carries it straight to Shiva. Everyone in the temple is whispering wishes for toys and marks. Your child leans close to the stone bull and whispers a wish that Nani's knee will stop hurting. On the walk home, Your child carries Nani's bag without being asked, just in case the wish needs help.
Lesson: Wish for someone else, then help the wish along
Maha ShivratriYour child and the River in Shiva's Hair
↗Dadaji tells the story of how the river Ganga fell from the sky so fast that Shiva caught her in his hair to stop her flooding the earth. The next morning the water tank overflows and the courtyard is flooding. Your child remembers the story, grabs the garden pipe and guides the water gently into the tulsi bed and the banana plants instead of the door. Nothing is spoiled, and the garden drinks well.
Lesson: Big rushes of trouble become gentle when someone guides them
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Blue-Throat Story
↗At the Shivratri gathering, Nana tells how Shiva swallowed the poison from the churning ocean so nobody else would be hurt, and his throat turned blue. The next day Your child's little cousin breaks Nani's bangle and is terrified. Your child says, 'We both did it,' and shares the scolding. Afterwards Nana quietly draws a tiny blue mark on Your child's throat with a pen and winks.
Lesson: Taking someone's trouble onto yourself is a quiet kind of bravery
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Lamp on the Hill Temple
↗The village Shiva temple sits on a hill, and on Shivratri the children carry lamps up the winding path. Your child is halfway up when a grandmother sits down, too tired to climb. The other children hurry past. Your child stays, holds the lamp low so she can see the steps, and walks beside her all the way. They reach the top last, but the priest says their lamp is the one he was waiting for.
Lesson: Arriving last with someone beats arriving first alone
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Snake Who Was Not Scary
↗In every Shiva picture there is a snake around his neck, and Your child finds it frightening. On Shivratri, a harmless rat snake slides into the courtyard and everyone shrieks. Your child remembers Dadaji saying Shiva keeps the snake close because fear shrinks when you look at it kindly. Your child stands still, watches it glide peacefully to the garden wall, and finds the fear is much smaller now.
Lesson: Look calmly at what scares you and it often shrinks
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Rudraksha Beads
↗Nana's rudraksha mala has snapped on Shivratri morning and the beads have scattered under the bed, behind the almirah and into the flowerpots. Nana cannot bend to look. Your child spends the whole morning on hands and knees finding all one hundred and eight, counting them into a steel bowl. Threading them back is slow, but when Nana holds the mala again his eyes shine.
Lesson: Patience, one bead at a time, mends what is broken
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Fast That Was Shared
↗Mummy is fasting for Shivratri and Your child decides to try too, but by lunchtime the smell of pakoras from the neighbour's kitchen is torture. Instead of sneaking one, Your child tells Mummy honestly that it is too hard. Mummy smiles and says even a half-day of trying counts. They break the little fast together with fruit and sabudana khichdi, and Your child feels prouder of the honesty than of the fast.
Lesson: It is better to say 'I could not' than to pretend you did
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Dance of Nataraja
↗Shivratri evening at the school has a Nataraja dance, and Your child is the only student who cannot hold the one-legged pose without wobbling. Miss says Shiva dances with the whole world spinning around him and still stays calm. Your child practises every day on the veranda, staring at one spot on the wall. On the night, when the drums roar, Your child balances perfectly for the whole final beat.
Lesson: Stillness in the middle of noise comes with practice
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Bel Tree at the Crossroads
↗The old bel tree at the crossroads gives the whole mohalla its Shivratri leaves, but this year a stall owner wants to cut a branch for space. Your child gathers the children and they wrap a thread around the trunk, like Nani does for tulsi, and politely offer to help the stall owner move a little further along. He laughs, agrees, and the bel tree keeps all its branches.
Lesson: Speak up politely for those who cannot speak for themselves
Maha ShivratriYour child and the Mountain Home of Shiva
↗For Shivratri, Your child's class builds a model of Mount Kailash, Shiva's snowy home, from cardboard and cotton wool. On the final day the cotton peak collapses and the others want to leave it flat. Your child suggests folding a paper cone underneath, and everyone brings their old notebooks. The mountain stands tall, and Your child adds a tiny Parvati and Ganesha at the foot of it.
Lesson: Do not settle for flat when you can rebuild the peak