Bhai DoojYour child and the Tilak Thali
↗On Bhai Dooj, Your child gets to do the tilak. The roli, the rice and the sweets are all lined up on the thali, and Your child practises the swirl on a piece of paper twenty times. When the moment comes the tilak is a bit lopsided, but the brother says it is his lucky mark and keeps it on all day, even at the park.
Lesson: Practice makes brave, even if it is not perfect
Bhai DoojYour child and the Secret Gift
↗There is no pocket money left for a Bhai Dooj gift, so Your child spends the week making a comic book about the sibling's superhero adventures, drawn in crayon and stapled twice. When it is handed over, the sibling reads it three times without stopping and puts it on the shelf beside the real books. Best gift ever, they both agree.
Lesson: Time and effort make the best presents
Bhai DoojYour child and the Brothers of the Lane
↗Your child has no brother, so Bhai Dooj usually feels like everyone else's festival. This year Mummy suggests inviting the boy next door, whose sister lives far away. Your child does the tilak, he brings a gift, and by evening the two of them are planning a kite for Sankranti. Sometimes, Your child decides, you get to choose your family.
Lesson: Family can be the friends you choose
Bhai DoojYour child and the Yamuna and Yama Story
↗Nani tells how the river Yamuna waited and waited for her brother Yama to visit, and when he finally came, she fed him so lovingly that he promised to come every year on this day. Your child's brother is at boarding school and cannot come. So Your child cooks his favourite aloo paratha, packs it in a tiffin with a rakhi-sized tilak in a little box, and sends it by the morning bus.
Lesson: A promise to visit can travel in a tiffin
Bhai DoojYour child and the Coconut Gift
↗On Bhai Dooj, the brother is supposed to give his sister a gift, and Your child has only ten rupees. The shops are full of things that cost much more. Your child buys a single coconut, paints it with a smiling face and a bow, and writes 'I will always crack problems for you' on it. Didi laughs so hard she keeps the coconut on her desk for a whole year.
Lesson: The thought inside the gift is worth more than the price on it
Bhai DoojYour child and the Tilak for Three Brothers
↗Your child has one real brother and two cousins who feel just like brothers, and only one small bowl of tilak paste. The eldest cousin says the real brother should go first. Your child mixes more roli with a drop of water, lines all three up by height, and does three tilaks, three sweets and three prayers for a long life. All three carry Your child on their shoulders afterwards.
Lesson: There is always enough love to go around
Bhai DoojYour child and the Brother Who Said Sorry
↗Bhaiya broke Your child's clay elephant last week and never said sorry. On Bhai Dooj, Mummy says the tilak must be done, quarrel or not. Your child does the tilak with a very serious face. Then Bhaiya pulls a small parcel from his pocket: a new clay elephant, painted by himself, with a note that says sorry. The tilak gets smudged by a big hug.
Lesson: A small sorry can mend a big crack
Bhai DoojYour child and the Sister's Blessing
↗Dadi explains that on Bhai Dooj a sister prays for her brother's long life, and a brother promises to protect her. Your child thinks it should go both ways. So after the tilak, Your child asks Didi to sit, does a tilak on her forehead too, and promises to protect her from bullies, spiders and boring homework. Didi says it is the best Bhai Dooj because it went both ways.
Lesson: Protection and love are promises worth making in both directions
Bhai DoojYour child and the Lost Brother at the Fair
↗At the Bhai Dooj mela, Your child's little brother wanders off to follow a balloon seller and disappears. Your child does not panic. Remembering the family rule, Your child walks straight to the temple gate, the meeting spot, and waits. Twenty long minutes later, the little brother arrives holding a policeman's hand and a free balloon. Your child does not let go of his hand for the rest of the day.
Lesson: Remember the plan and stay calm when someone gets lost
Bhai DoojYour child and the Brother in the Army
↗Bhaiya is posted at a mountain camp and cannot come home for Bhai Dooj. Your child paints a tilak on a small mirror, wraps it with a sweet and a letter, and Papa posts it early. On Bhai Dooj morning, Bhaiya calls on video from the snow, holds the mirror to his forehead so the red dot lines up, and eats the sweet. Everyone at home cheers as if he were in the room.
Lesson: Distance is nothing when love plans ahead
Bhai DoojYour child and the Kheer for Bhaiya
↗Bhaiya's favourite is kheer, and this year Your child wants to make it without help. The rice sticks, the milk boils over and the kitchen is a mess. Your child cleans up, starts again on a low flame, and stirs for an hour. The kheer is a little thick, but Bhaiya eats two bowls and says it is the first kheer anyone ever made only for him.
Lesson: Something made just for someone tastes of love
Bhai DoojYour child and the Cousin Who Had No Sister
↗Cousin Arjun has no sister, and at the family Bhai Dooj gathering he pretends he does not care while everyone else gets tilaks. Your child sees him kicking a stone in the courtyard. Without a word, Your child carries the thali outside, does his tilak, feeds him a sweet and holds out a palm for a gift. Arjun gives a marble, the best one he owns, and a very big smile.
Lesson: Notice the one who is pretending not to mind
Bhai DoojYour child and the Badam Bandit
↗The almonds for the Bhai Dooj thali keep vanishing, and everyone blames Your child's little brother. Your child decides to find out for sure, and sits quietly by the kitchen window. A squirrel drops in from the mango tree, grabs an almond and scampers off. Your child shows the family, clears the little brother's name, and leaves two almonds on the window ledge for the squirrel every day after that.
Lesson: Find the truth before you blame the smallest one
Bhai DoojYour child and the Walk to Didi's House
↗On Bhai Dooj a brother visits his sister's house, and Didi now lives across town after her wedding. Papa's scooter has a flat tyre. Your child refuses to miss the day, packs the sweets, and takes the city bus for the first time alone, with Mummy's directions written on a paper. Didi opens the door to a proud, slightly lost, very hungry brother, and does the longest tilak ever.
Lesson: Keep the day's promise even when the road gets harder
Bhai DoojYour child and the Thali of All the Sisters
↗In the mohalla, the boys go from house to house on Bhai Dooj getting tilaks from every girl who calls them brother. Your child has one small thali and twelve boys turn up at once. The sweets run out at boy number seven. Your child breaks the remaining laddoos into halves, then quarters, and does not let a single boy leave without a tilak and a bite. Every one of them comes back next year.
Lesson: Make it stretch rather than turn someone away